“Why we Need to Stop Saying, “I’m Sorry For Your Loss” (Elephant Journal)

Here is one author’s point of view that we should stop saying “I’m sorry for your loss” when meeting a bereaved person.  The author offers five options:

1. I’m sorry you’re suffering right now, but I’m here with you and willing to help any way I can. Is there anything you need right now?

2. I’m sorry for whatever challenges might lie ahead for you, but I’m here and willing to help. Would it be okay if I call next week just to check in with you?

3. Please accept my deepest condolences. I can’t imagine what you must be going through right now, but I know enough about grief to know that it can be very challenging. Don’t hesitate to call me if there’s anything I can do to help.

4. I’m so sorry to hear about _____. I’m sure you’re going to miss him/her terribly. How are you holding up?

5. I know there’s nothing I can say right now to make things better, but I also know that having someone to talk to at times like this is really important, so don’t hesitate to call me whenever you need to.

Here’s a link to the full article:


Why we Need to Stop Saying, “I’m Sorry For Your Loss.”
by Ed Preston
Elephant Journal
Apr 2, 2017

Food for thought,