Though this New York Times article is about a former baseball pitcher Jim Bouton with cerebral amyloid angiopathy (a type of dementia), I think the article is of general interest. The end of the article is about the wife and family identifying what the husband can still do, and adjusting around that. This applies to all of us coping with neurological decline.
Here’s an excerpt:
His wife Paula “Kurman calls his condition a pothole syndrome: Things will seem smooth, his wit and vocabulary intact, and then there will be a sudden, unforeseen gap in his reasoning, or a concept he cannot quite grasp. … In her work with brain-damaged children, Kurman said, her boss would tell her to think about what remains, not what is lost. It is a lesson she applies now. Her husband can still make her laugh, still make her think. … And he can still pitch. ‘You need to learn that the person is still that person, and you have to focus more on what he can do, rather than what he can’t do,’ she said. ‘And then you adjust.'”
Here’s a link to the full article:
Robin