“Little Wished-for Deaths” (beautiful caregiving story)

This is a beautiful story about a woman who cared for her 90-plus year old grandfather with Parkinson’s Disease and dementia.


“Because grief, like death, doesn’t adhere to our constructs. The wished-for deaths of ailing loved ones doesn’t make them any less loved. It only means we hoped for an end to suffering, on both accounts. And deaths that are supposed to be small can sometimes feel big. … The funeral commemorated a life that spanned nearly a century, putting those four years into a birds-eye perspective. They were sometimes burdensome, yes, and sometimes beautiful, but only a small portion of a rich and varied life: of his and mine both.”

The full article is here:


Little Wished-for Deaths
by Mary Pembleton
October 11, 2019
New York Times