“Scientific American” published an article about Alzheimer’s caregiving. Despite the title, I think the article applies to caregiving of anyone with a neurological disorder and perhaps all caregiving! Here are some excerpts.
Excerpt:
The vast majority of caregivers know full well that their spouses or parents are ill, yet they still behave in ways they know are counterproductive: arguing, blaming, insisting on reality, and taking symptoms personally. Yes, Cathy understood that she was dealing with a disease, with someone suffering from delusions and hallucinations, but when Frank [with Alzheimer’s], panicked by imaginary thieves, refused to crack open a window, Cathy [his wife] fumed with resentment, and that feeling gradually overcame her desire to be understanding and reasonable. … [Frank] lost his ability to see his wife as a complete person.
Our friend Denise Dagan shared her book review of 
When Cynthia Dearborn became her 75-year-old father’s caregiver, she knew little about what lay ahead. Two decades on, she shares the insights that helped her help him